Trusting the Desires That Bring You Peace
QUESTION FROM TONIGHT'S CONNECTION
Have you ever witnessed someone ignore their gut feeling about a partner and what did you learn from it?
I’m someone who pays close attention to the choices people make in relationships. Over the years, one pattern has continued to stand out to me.
I’ve noticed that sometimes people begin moving away from what they once genuinely desired when someone enters their life who doesn’t naturally align with that desire.
As I’ve reflected on that pattern, I’ve found myself wondering why that happens. Why do we begin negotiating with desires that once felt so clear?
I believe that somewhere beneath the surface, we begin questioning whether we’re truly worthy of what we desire. Sometimes that uncertainty comes from within, and sometimes it grows louder because of the voices around us. Either way, I’ve observed how easy it is to slowly drift away from what once felt deeply aligned.
That observation led me to an even deeper realization. The stronger my relationship with the Divine has become, the more I’ve learned to distinguish between an ego want and a soul desire.
An ego want is often driven by fear, comparison, or trying to prove something. A soul desire brings peace. It remains consistent over time. It reflects the life I’m being called to live.
When I recognize a soul desire, I no longer feel the need to negotiate with it. I trust that the same source that placed the desire within me also knows how to align me with what fulfills it.
After spending 30 years raising my two sons by myself and watching them become men I’m proud of, I know the season of life I’m entering.
I’m very specific about what I desire in a husband, and I’ve been told there aren’t any men out there like that. I only need one.
I believe clarity helps me recognize what truly belongs in my life. If that one man isn’t ready yet, I’m at peace with that. Maybe he’s still being shaped. Maybe I’m still being shaped. Either way, I trust that alignment never requires me to abandon what I know in my heart.
Watching other people’s journeys taught me to trust my own desires, know my worth, trust my relationship with the creator, and honor the desires that continue to live peacefully within my heart.
